Changes

For the last two years, our family has experienced a lot of change. When your family spends a lot of time publicly sharing your life together online, in great detail and picture, one adventure after another, it’s really hard to keep sharing your life when things don’t go as planned. Tyler and I always wanted Blue Lily to be two things- a positive place online where people can come and read our stories of travel and life experiences, and an uplifting experience in person where we could bond with people through taking portraits. 


Early last year, Tyler and I separated. Yes, it was every bit as hard as you can imagine. So much change and emotion and uncertainty. It’s been really hard to talk about publicly. Especially since we have remained close friends and business partners, and most importantly, we are committed to each other as a parenting team. 


Now seems like a time when we can both come to our readers and clients and tell you what’s been going on behind the scenes, and we really hope that you can understand why we weren’t super sure about how to do this for so long. I suppose we finally realized that even though we are divorced, we have found a happy balance once again in our family, and we can trust that you won’t change your feelings about us. 


We feel normal again. Isaac and Isabelle are thriving, Blue Lily Photo is growing and stretching, and we are still the same people. We are a divorced couple who goes on an occasional work trip or camping vacation together. We eat dinner together, walk the kids to school together, laugh together, snowboard together, and have learned how to be this new kind of family together. 


Trust us, great things are ahead, just like so many wonderful things we’ve been lucky to experience in the past. Please don’t give up on us. We are Wendy and Tyler, Isaac and Isabelle. We are Blue Lily Photo. We want to hang out with you and know you and photograph you and laugh with you. And we certainly want to keep you as friends. Thanks for tuning in, we appreciate you all.

 

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My whip

For the last year I've been driving a car that defies all stereotypes for a person like me. A mom, middle aged, relatively boring. 

I drive a Subaru WRX. Yep, that's the car that 18-24 year old boys all lust after. Speedy, manual shift, quick, compact. I have no business in such a car! But here I am, driving it daily. 

Each time I go to a Jiffy Lube or similar business to get my car's oil changed, the 19 year old male employees go nuts. "Wow, is this your car?" they'll ask, with a confused look on their face. "Yes," I'll respond, sheepishly. "THIS IS MY DREAM CAR!" They will undoubtedly exclaim every single time. "DON'T YOU JUST LOVE THIS CAR?"

Truth is, I didn't like the car at all, mostly because I'm a spoiled brat and somewhat because having a manual transmission car seems incredibly useless to me (if a car can shift itself, why would I want to go through the effort myself?); but also because I'm a 97 year old woman with sciatica trapped in a 38 year old woman's body. Getting in and out of it is hard because it's low to the ground, and pushing the super-hard-to-push clutch down to shift is kinda painful. 

However, I'm proud to say that I have embraced the car as my destiny, and I have finally discovered deep down that I have a natural, carnal need for speed. That car is freaking fun and FAST. So, while I am a suburban mom, I no longer have any hesistation to put on my mom jeans, throw my kids and dog in the car, and bolt to the grocery store, Fast and the Furious style.

Don't you wish you drove my whip?

 

Images from Raleigh, NC

BLUE LILY | Lifestyle Photographer | Salt Lake City, Utah

Night Photography Workshop!

We are workshopaholics over here! 

I'll be doing a really fun, inexpensive workshop on May 20th in the mountains of SLC, focused on night photography! I AM SUPER EXCITED ABOUT THIS. Night photography is a new passion of mine and I am really excited anytime I get a chance to do it. 

Here are the details:

When: Saturday, May 20, 8:30 pm- 10:30pm

Where: the hills/mountains above City Creek Canyon in SLC. (high Avenues neighborhood)

Cost: $19. Yes. $19. 

What to bring:  You will need a tripod, a DSLR camera (run the camera by me if you have concerns), clothing appropriate for whatever weather is that day, a flashlight.

This is going to be a really fun, interactive, inexpensive way to explore night photography and learn the basics, plus get some awesome shots of your own! Included in the $19 is a pdf outlining the techniques of long exposures so you can be a little prepared when you get there.

**** In case of bad weather that day, we will reschedule for another date TBA. We need clear skies and minimal wind.

Hair Brush

One recent evening, I found myself accompanied by Isaac in my bedroom. He loves to just talk and spend time with any adult, pick their brain, or endlessly jabber on about his current favorite video game. I must have been cleaning my room as he talked, and picked up a brush to put it away, because I mindlessly started to brush his hair.

If you haven't seen Isaac lately, you may not know that his hair is almost as long as mine, and is the MOST BEAUTIFUL hair that possibly has ever existed. It's thick, luxurious, healthy, shiny... everything a female would kill for and want for her own hair.

As I brushed his hair, he kinda reclined on my bed and relaxed as I did so, and we talked as I brushed. Soon enough, Isabelle wandered in and said, "Oh! Mom, will you brush my hair too? That looks relaxing."

YOU GUYS. Isabelle has never, EVER, ever ever ever wanted me to brush her hair. She has always HATED it passionately, says it hurts really bad, and will try anything to get out of doing her hair. Izzy is a beautiful thing inside and out, and as lovely and as charming as they come, but she did not get hair like Isaac's... except that it is shiny when brushed. Her hair is fine and thin. Makes for really cute buns and pony tails, but she will never let me do those styles. 

So, when she stated she wanted me to brush her hair, I went into shock. "You... want... me to brush... your hair?" I asked. "Yes please!" she replied, and relaxed on the bed and floofed her hair out to be more readily brushable. 

This, friends, is a perfect example of why kids are confusing and evil masterminds. They want what they want when they want it, and sometimes not even then. Confusing, but a tiny bit humorous, too.

So I brushed her hair enough to catch up with Isaac's level of brushed-ness, and then I took turns brushing hairs and scratching their backs, and it was such a lovely evening, and a memory I'll remember forever. Even if Isabelle is an evilchildmastermind.

 

Images from New York City, NY

BLUE LILY | Lifestyle Photographer | Salt Lake City, Utah